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Is it time for society to change?

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I’m going to ask you to think back to when you started working at a new job. Think about your excitement of your first day as you happily met everyone as the supervisor introduced you to your co-workers. Things are going well, you are happy at the organization but as you get comfortable in your new environment, you notice certain tasks being done completely inefficiently and you even overhear other employees complaining about how inconvenient and useless the entire process was. You think to yourself, why don’t they do things differently? In fact, you can think of a myriad of better ways the task can be handled and you wonder if no one else has thought of these options before. You approach your supervisor expressing your concerns and ways you think things can be done better and you get the dreaded, “This is the way it’s always been done.” And with a shrug of the shoulders the supervisor walks away.

Think of how you felt when you heard that phrase. The frustration at why no one wanted to put in the effort to make a change that so many others agreed was past due. What if you tried to there and make the changes on your own only to be met with the direction from management to reel it back. Would you decide to give up and go with the flow or do you wait until the final straw and quit? What then? Nothing changes, the organization stays the same, the people are still frustrated and everyone continues with the status quo.

Now apply this scenario to society. How many people think it is time for a change? How many people can see the many ways things can be done differently, or better and wonder who is going to step up? This is not an opportunity to wag a finger in the face of anyone but to invite everyone to stop and think about why are we continuing to do things the way they’ve been done for so many years, particularly when it isn’t working?

Why create a system that intentionally contributes to the deterioration of the environment, perpetuating hate, and fostering individualism to the detriment of care for the less fortunate? Forcing people to robotic lives that offer no personal fulfillment but is wrought with societal rules and standards. Criminalizing the mentally ill, poor, and any group deemed as an other by society. Education systems that are biased and inequitable and deliberate attempts to marginalize certain groups of society has caused many people to wonder, why are we not doing things differently, why not change?

Why not consider the ideas of the “radical” individual that is screaming that we are doing it all wrong? I think at this point, most people can acknowledge that what is going on in so many areas of our society is not working. I’m sure just as many people can think of at least two ways things can be done differently, but it seems as if many people in society have become that frustrated new employee. If that is you, can you identify where you would be if you were the new employee? Would you be ready to go out and make your own change, are you giving up and prepared to go along to get along, or are you ready to quit the whole thing and start new somewhere else?

If more people consider that collectively change can happen but the key is collectively. More people need to decide that enough is enough and things need and should be done differently. Start with you. Do your best to do things differently in your life everyday. Inspire those around you to do the same. If you have a way to help someone, do it, and someone else can/should help you. Don’t quit. Don’t give in. The answer can no longer be, “This is how its always been done.”

Peace and blessings.

Generational Curse or Changing the Pattern?

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I’ve often heard the phrase, “breaking a/the generational curse(s)” and it makes me think about how the language around this phrase should be changed. Why should it change or even matter to anyone? Well, I think that your words have power and if you give power to negativity, then what else is there for you to manifest? Why is it even called a generational curse? What is a generational curse?

A generational curse is something [I would imagine negative] that has been passed down from generation to generation. I’ve often heard to it referred to some bad trait or habit that multiple generations of people in a family have suffered through and (apparently) no one has been able to stop from happening. I’ve heard this in reference to all sorts of things like women in a family becoming pregnant in their teens, even going to jail. These among a litany of others are what I’ve heard being referred to as a generational curse. I think one of the first things one can do is acknowledge the behavior(s) or action(s) you want to change.

The next step is to make intentional efforts to do something different. It can be that simple. Each day be intentional about what you do, particularly if the pattern is something you want to change. Be kind to yourself and watch the language you use.

Words have power and you have to mindful of what you give your power to. Saying you are setting out to break a generational curse sounds like a daunting task and for some people, it can be too much to handle. You want to position yourself for success, not going out to slay a dragon. It is a pattern that you do not like and you’re taking steps to change it. I’m sure that sounds differently than breaking a generational curse. Anyone can change a pattern right?

The point is you want to be successful. You want this to work, so set yourself up for success. Change that pattern, take steps to move yourself in the direction you want to go everyday and before you know it, you’ll get there. Be consistent and continue to do it even when its hard and you don’t want to. In fact, lean in more during the times you feel hit the hardest. When you come out on the other side, you’ll be amazed at what you were able to accomplish.

Doing all these things like being kind to yourself, being consistent, changing your language are all tools to get you to your destination. You can do this with anything, not just changing familial patterns. Maybe you want to lose weight, start a business, or start a new career. All these things require the same recipe; changing your language, being kind to yourself, taking intentional steps to do something different, and consistency. Life if challenging enough, so to the extent you can do things to make tackling each day a bit easier for yourself do it because the goal is to accomplish your dreams, not struggle to reach them.

Consistency is Key!

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Have you ever heard the phrase, “Anything worth having is something you gotta work for”? I can hear that phrase repeating itself at various points in my life, particularly when the road got its roughest. I think this mantra is designed to motivate the repeater that better days are coming as long as they keep working at it [the goal] and remain consistent.

I think the difficulty with consistency is that you have to keep doing something even when you don’t see the results. The idea is that the end of the process, the individual would have achieved whatever they were working towards but what do you do when you are on the journey? When you haven’t quite reached that “final destination”. The journey is the consistency.

The journey is continuing to write when on average, only a handful of people are going to read it. The journey is practicing even when you aren’t a starter on the team. The journey is continuing to work a 9 – 5 job while you finance your dreams in the hope of something better. Continuing to work towards those goals consistently is the journey and that is the road you must travel to reach your goal or whatever that thing is that you’ve been working towards.

Don’t skip the journey. Don’t rush through it because you think the prize is at the end. The prize is the journey. The things you learned along the way, the lessons, the letdowns, the people you’ll meet, the celebrations are all part of the journey and part of what you will experience as you work hard. Think about it. Once you’ve reached the goal, essentially, you’re done right? You get to kick back and enjoy what you worked so hard for. You get to relax. Enjoy all the excitement that comes along the way. All those things are meant to prepare you for whatever comes next and you can master it all with consistency.

Consistency can be the grunt work, but it is necessary work to get you to the next level. Each notch you get closer towards your goal is due to you committing to your own success. Each notch is you choosing to put your personal happiness first because you are working towards something that you want and isn’t that a wonderful feeling to have? There are so many ways that life can rob you of happiness so you have to be committed to creating your happiness everyday. Be bold, be yourself, be happy, be consistent.